Confident kids are able to cope with the basic challenges of life, live independently, and feel worthy of love, happiness, and success.
It’s never too early to start working on your toddler’s self-confidence because confident toddlers often wound up being confident adults. Here are 7 simple ways to instill self-confidence in your child from a young age:
#1. Love Your Child:
This is the first and most important thing you have to do. Your child needs to feel love and acceptance within their immediate family as this will serve as a foundation for self-confidence for the rest of their lives.
Loving your child and showing it to them helps them understand that they are important and mean very much to somebody and when they are out there in school, at social gatherings or anywhere else, they’ll act with that mindset no matter how badly they are treated by anyone else.
There is no perfect way to love your child and nobody can tell you how to do it but no matter how you try to do it, it is important that you do it in a way that clearly shows your child how you feel about them.
It’s important to say the words “I love you” from time to time and also say “I’m sorry” anytime you do something wrong. Hugging your child, playing with them, and making time for them also goes a long way to show them that they are really special.
#2. Give Then Undivided Attention:
This is especially important if she has other siblings or other people around begging for your attention. Crate some ‘us’ time even if it’s just for half an hour a day. You can spend this time talking to them, reading them stories, going to the grocery store or doing any other activity together.
What you’ll be doing is trying to tell your toddler that they are very special and this helps to boost their confidence.
Sometimes, little things can go a long way when it comes to giving your toddler your attention like making eye contact when you’re talking to her, switching off the TV for a few minutes to help them solve a problem, or putting your phone aside for a moment to answer a question or attend to their needs.
#3. Teach them to Do Things for Themselves:
Don’t micromanage your child’s life- let them learn from their mistakes too.
Sometimes you just have to stand by, watch, keep your mouth shut, and keep your hands to yourself while your toddler is doing some educational activities or playing with their toys.
Don’t try to help them fix their Legos or complete their puzzles for them; let your child handle it themselves. They would make a couple of mistakes but they would also learn from it and use the experience to do better next time. Next time when they get it right, their confidence gets a boost and they won’t be scared to take on more challenging tasks in the future.
But if you continue to intervene, standing over them to control everything or even scold them when they don’t do it right, they may lose their confidence and even develop anxiety issues.
If you want to raise children who can make their own decisions and handle tasks without waiting for mom and dad, you have to teach them to do things themselves.
#4. Don’t Withhold Praise:
Praising your child is not going to spoil her. Just like adults need positive feedback, children do too.
And it usually means a lot when it comes from mom, dad, and the people they love and admire.
Children make a lot of efforts to please us parents and most times, we don’t know the half of it. Praise your child for the efforts they put into activities and skills and if they don’t perform well, don’t say things that will make them feel bad- praise the efforts and let them understand that all they need to do to be better is to give it a better shot next time.
You don’ have to give unrealistic praise; you can be genuine with your feedback- it’s okay to let them know that they didn’t do too well but the way you say it matters a lot- reassure them and let them know it’s okay to not be able to do things perfectly all the time and sometimes, it takes repeated efforts and practice to get the best results.
A rule of thumb is to always ask yourself ‘How would I like to be spoken to and treated by my boss if I performed poorly at work?”
If you don’t like to be spoken to or treated that way when you make mistakes, don’t do it to your child.
#5. Offer Choices:
It’s always a good idea to have your toddler choose between two or more options. You can have them pick out their own clothes, their own snacks or desserts and so on.
Allowing them to make their choices and trusting their judgments go a long way in boosting their sense of self-worth and confidence- it’s like telling your child “You’re smart enough to make your own choices”
#6. Accept His Emotions:
You shouldn’t force your choices on your child every time, If they are crying or throwing tantrums because they do not want something or they want it, you should try to see things from their point of view and consider maybe what they want might just be the best thing for them.
If your child is throwing tantrums because you want to leave the park and they don’t, see if you can spare a few minutes more but if you can’t, validate their feelings and explain why you can’t do what they want.
You can say “I know you’re sad because you don’t want us to leave the playground yet but we have to make a stop at the grocery store and that could take another 15 minutes. We can come back next week”
Validating their emotions rather than enforcing yours on them, teaches them to be confident to express themselves without fear in the future.
#7. Don’t Compare Your Child to Someone Else:
Just don’t do it; don’t say “Look, Oliver is so quiet, why can’t you be quiet like Olliver?” Your child has to feel and believe that they are the best kid in the world and no one compares to them. They have to know that you are proud of them.